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Question by gripper2: Is it irresponsible to have several kids with different dads?
My daughters mother had 2 kids when we met. Then we had a baby. Obviously we are not together anymore. 3 years later she had another child. The dad is now out of the picture. About a year or so ago, she had another child.
That makes 5 kids and 4 dads. She is married to the last dad and aside from myself the other 2 dads aren’t really involved. My daughter lives with me and visits her mom.
Doesn’t it seem irresponsible considering if something were to happen to the mom the difficulty and sadness it would cause for the kids trying to keep in touch with each other.
Best answer:
Answer by Anonymous
You must be a little brain dead to ask that question. Sorry- i have 17 step dads- Isnt that normal
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b r says:
Ask you kids this question when they are 16
May 27, 2011, 1:14 amdolly says:
sorry to say its ridiculious,disgusting n irrisponsible
May 27, 2011, 2:12 amKat says:
Yes I think it’s quite irresponsible. Especially when all these other dads don’t pay for their kids. It’s good you have yours.
May 27, 2011, 3:11 amlions says:
canine bitches do that –having litters with any available male when they’re in heat.
May 27, 2011, 3:19 amHoney Bee Loves Her Hubby Bee! says:
Yes, it’s irresponsible. You see, there has been this little invention called “the pill.” Sounds like she could have used it. Or is she one of those types that thinks getting pregnant will solve relationship problems by trapping the man into being with her?
May 27, 2011, 3:35 amkgilfilen says:
All of those kids need their fathers. They all need a good father. It’s a ridiculous amount of havoc this woman (and her partners) has wreaked in her kids’ lives. Kids from single parent families are the statistics that include delinquency, teen pregnancy, damaging drug use, and all kinds of personal problems.
The word “irresponsibility” doesn’t quite capture the damage in these kids lives.
So how did you hook up with her and have two of those kids?
May 27, 2011, 3:53 amMidnight says:
I bet she’s the talk of the town! She’s like the community bicycle, everyone rides her!
May 27, 2011, 4:24 amEinsteinetta says:
It is irresponsible and unkind to bring kids into the world and not provide a good, stable home for them to grow up in. Period.
It sounds like you are experiencing a “her sins are worse than my sins” moment.
Is it any more irresponsible than having 2 kids with one dad who leaves?
Or than having sex with 10 or 15 people and some of them (women) have kids, but you move on?
How would kids having different dads affect the kids staying in touch with each other? If the mother died, there would be sadness no matter who was their dad(s).
May 27, 2011, 4:28 amABCD says:
Here’s a better question: is it irresponsible to have a child with someone and then b*tch about her character? YES IT IS.
When you shame the parent of your child, you shame your child. You should stop this right now. You decided to have a child with this woman. You made the exact same choice that she did. Would you rather your child did not exist? Maybe you are as much the problem as she is. You shouldn’t father a child if you’re not committed to spending the rest of your life with the mother. And you certainly should not put down the mother of your child. Shame on YOU!
May 27, 2011, 4:30 am